In yesterday’s post we talked about the decision to let go. As much as we’d like to pretend that once the decision is made, we’re done, it’s not quite that simple. Letting go doesn’t come naturally. Instead, it’s more of a habit that we must establish. We make the decision to let go and then we have to spend quite some time reminding ourselves daily of that decision until it becomes a habit, something automatic.
Until the habit is firmly established, our instinctual reaction is to go back to those dark places. It takes a conscious effort to let go over and over again until we’ve internalized it. In that sense, letting go is a process.
How long it will take you to completely let go varies. It depends on what you have to let go and how painful it was. It also depends on you and how long it takes you to form this new habit. Until you get to a point where you truly have moved on, it’s your job to remind yourself of this act of letting go, no matter how many times a day it takes.
Prayer and meditation are both great tools to help you along this journey of letting go. Keeping a journal is another great way to support yourself during this process. And of course you shouldn’t discount talking to people. This could be a close friend, a family member, or even a therapist that helps you through your grieving process as well as the process of letting go.
It’s not going to be easy, and often it isn’t going to be quick. That’s why it’s important that when you make the decision to let go, you do so wholeheartedly. This is going to take effort, but the good news is that it is well worth it.
You know your process has ended when you feel that weight lift off your shoulders. You know you’ve completed your journey towards letting go when you no longer harbor feelings of anger and pain towards the person who’s done you wrong. You’ll feel at peace and are well on your way to feeling happiness and joy again. In other words, there’s a very worthwhile reward at the end of this admittedly difficult process.