So far we’ve talked a lot about forgiving others in this 30 Day Letting Go Challenge. There’s one very important person we’ve not talked about yet – and that’s you. It’s about time we take a closer look at forgiving yourself, what it means, why it’s so difficult, and why it is important.
Forgiving yourself is often harder than forgiving anyone else. We’re hard on ourselves. We are our own worst critics and as a result it’s often tough to let go ourselves. It’s hard to admit and let go of our mistakes. Yet self-forgiveness is one of the most powerful parts of self-love.
When you learn to forgive yourself, you aren’t just able to start moving on. You will also start to develop a deeper feeling of self-worth. With that comes a new-found self-confidence that will serve you well in the days to come. Life is much easier and a lot more fun when you are able to develop a good feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.
Of course all of that is easier said than done. Forgiving yourself, as I mentioned earlier, is harder than it looks. It’s not something that comes easy to most of us. If you’re lacking in self-worth, and self-confidence, it will be even harder. The good news is that you can get there by following a simple step-by-step process.
Start by admitting the ways in which you’ve let yourself down. You won’t be able to move past your challenges if you don’t know, or admit, what they are. Make a list, or simply start with some of your biggest mistakes. Admit them to yourself so you can start to move on.
Next, think about what you would have done differently, given the chance. Knowing what you do now, what would you change? With that clear in your mind, realize that you did your best at the time. Maybe you didn’t make the best decisions, but you had to grow as a person to realize that. Release your past self for the decisions you made, and be thankful for what you’ve learned. They are part of what molded you into the person you are today. We learn from even our negative experiences and all experiences–good and bad–mold and shape us.
Last but not least, vow to do better in the future. You have grown and become a stronger person as a result of learning from your choices. Let go of beating yourself up for the things you regret and work on doing better going forward. Do this and you’ll notice how your feeling of self-worth increases with each good decision you make. Before you know it, you’ll be the confident, happy person you’re striving to be – thanks to self-letting go.