We like to be right, don’t we? Being able to tell someone “I told you so” makes us feel important and powerful. Hearing it on the other hand isn’t so nice, is it? While we all like to be right, we don’t appreciate being told we’re wrong.
Insisting on being right, even if you only think you are, can quickly turn you into a bully. I’m sure that’s the last thing you want to be. Yet for some reason, it seems to come more natural to us than being kind and considerate. We love to “one-up” others. We strive to do better than the Joneses. We do things regularly to compete with those around us and come out on top. The urge to be right is so deeply engrained in us that it may be something that’s coded into our DNA. It’s a survival instinct that I’m sure served us well back in the days of survival of the fittest. Thankfully we’ve come a long way from our caveman days when being right was needed to ensure you stayed alive.
Today we live in a world that requires more cooperation and interaction than ever. Much of what we do both for a living and for fun is based on or around emotional relationships with others. Yet the desire to be right is still there. It’s how we protect our ego and our self-confidence. Allowing ourselves to be wrong or simply choosing to be kind instead of pointing out how right we are can be tough. That being said, it’s a worthwhile endeavor that helps us cultivate stronger, more nourishing relationships with our loved ones.
What does this have to do with letting go you ask? It’s all about treating people right and creating an environment that encourages kindness, joy, and cooperation. That’s not going to happen as long as we cling to our need to be right and better than those around us. For that to happen, we have to work on kindness instead.
A great place to start is to simply put yourself into the other person’s shoes and see things from their point of view. Believe it or not, sometimes it’s possible for both of you to be right. And even if they are wrong, think about how you’d feel if you were told that you were wrong and they were right. Find a way to deal with the situation while allowing them to save face. In other words, be kind and don’t make it a point to show off that you’re right. By doing that, you make it much easier to let go, not just the parties involved, but in general. You’re changing your entire attitude and outlook on life for the better. In other words, you become a kinder person that’s much better at practicing letting go.